Pan Problem at Practice
today at practice the boys were being dumb (what’s new, the boys on my team are always dumb) and when coach said “boys on offence” they retorted “how can you tell?”. She said “boys have penises, girls have vaginas” which resulted in some of the girls talking about the article about trans*people that was in the paper the other day which lead to laughter. I sat there not knowing what to say, especially because I am out to all of them as pansexual. I didn’t take it as a personal jab, but how do you handle that? I feel like I betrayed all my p.l.i.s and want to handle it better the next time it comes up.
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I don’t know, that’s quite a tough situation. If you aren’t comfortable or confident enough to stand up to a whole group of people (including the coach), that’s more than reasonable. I’m not sure I’d be able to do anything, either. Any suggestions, followers?
10 panphobic myths
I don’t really like the -phobic terminology, but there don’t seem to be any specific terms to replace biphobia and panphobia, except bi-hatred and pan-hatred, and I hear people find them too clunky.
But that asides, this is a great article / blog post / thing. Read it.
stuff pansexuals need to know
An article about gender, sex, bisexuality, gender expression, race, wording etc, and basically, stuff pansexual people need to know.
Do you know? Do you agree?
“ladyboy” = “kathoey/katoey” among other names, although apparently that can also be considered a pejorative? not sure.
Right. Thai person here.
Erm, the term ‘kathoey’ is actually somewhat derogatory in Thailand itself, but as far as I know there is no preferable term right now. Sorry. I will use the term as a placeholder.
Kathoey are not directly comparable to trans women only. I think the term ‘kathoey’ includes a range of trans* identities. Kathoey are generally MAAB people who, in some way, discover, become, or take on some form of feminine identity. This can encompass undergoing surgery and living as a woman, or crossdressing, being camp. It can include identifying as a woman, identifying as a different type of woman, identifying as another gender altogether, identifying as no particular gender, or identifying as a different type of man.
To back up the assertion that these identies have roots in history: here are depictions of various types of kathoey in Thai mural paintings dating from at least the 16th century. Just sayin. See: ‘Reading Thai Murals’ by David K. Wyatt (2004).
(But even if it were entirely newfangled - which in the whole history of ideas I rather doubt the possibility of - it doesn’t make it any less valid, depending on how you look at it…)
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Thank you both for your input, it’s really interesting - I guess the concept of ‘kathoey’ is a lot wider and more encompassing than I thought, or the concept I was thinking of is actually just a part of a bigger concept.