I am a 24 year old female pansexual. It has taken me what has felt like an eternity to accept this as a part of myself. It’s funny, but while I have always accepted people as they are, no matter their shape, colour, sexual orientation, dietary preferences, etc. But when it came to this part of myself, I struggled with accepting it. With getting to the “I’m okay” part of it all.
But, after all this time, I have recently accepted this. And it feels… Good.
When someone isn’t quite sure how to react when I tell them, I like to make a light joke about not discriminating when it comes to attraction and love. When you think about it, how could that ever be a bad thing? ;)
I just wanted to say to all those struggling with acceptance when it comes to themselves, just give yourself some time. Be patient with yourself. Because, something like this is big. It can be scary. But in the end, it should be a very positive thing. Never be ashamed of who you truly are inside, and never lie to yourself.
Because this is your life, and you only get to live it once.
Remember, you are not alone. And while I may not be an expert on anything, really, if you ever need to talk, message me! :)
I’ve been told that I’m a good listener.
Anyways, take care of yourselves and live the good life!
[Submitted by platinumspeed - tumblr screenshot of an anonymous question “so what exactly do you identify as? homosexual, bisexual, straight, etc. I’m rather confused.” patinumspeed’s answer is “I am simply a person who loves people. Nothing more, nothing less <3” and a photo of (presumably) them in a red top with a blue shirt over it and a yellow neck-scarf, smiling and holding a hand-coloured pansexual flag.]
pansexual comes from the greek prefix pan-, which translated means “all”.
Submission from fears-vsdreams: <3
Image of pansexual flag and the words “We all fall in love.” with a heart around the word ‘all’.
Pan Problem at Practice
today at practice the boys were being dumb (what’s new, the boys on my team are always dumb) and when coach said “boys on offence” they retorted “how can you tell?”. She said “boys have penises, girls have vaginas” which resulted in some of the girls talking about the article about trans*people that was in the paper the other day which lead to laughter. I sat there not knowing what to say, especially because I am out to all of them as pansexual. I didn’t take it as a personal jab, but how do you handle that? I feel like I betrayed all my p.l.i.s and want to handle it better the next time it comes up.
[Sumitted by cephalopods4eva]
I don’t know, that’s quite a tough situation. If you aren’t comfortable or confident enough to stand up to a whole group of people (including the coach), that’s more than reasonable. I’m not sure I’d be able to do anything, either. Any suggestions, followers?
Hey there! What exactly is Romantic Attraction? http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love I’m relying on this and I’d call myself a Cisgender Male Heteroromantic (just intimacy though!) Demisexual. And how does commitment factor into this? Maybe giving a visual representation of suffices and prefixes for gender, sex and three types (at least imo) of orientation would be cool. If I have time I’ll think of something but Haha don’t count on me xP Oh and I find myself attracted to just bout almost every person/animal/thing in a nonsexual nonintimate nonromantic way but in a “omg so cute” way. Lines are so blurry Haha but I appreciate the queertionary even though I’m predominantly acceptable by non-allys.
[Submitted by rbrayana123]
Hi! I’m really impressed with the Queertionary, but I did notice that the hetero- definitions talk about being attracted to “the other gender”, which seems to imply a gender binary by saying someone is attracted to the one other gender besides their own. Maybe use “another gender” like you have in other definitions. I’m not sure if people use hetero- terms in this way, however, but I thought I’d throw that out there.
[Submitted by absolutelydefinitely]
Thanks! I did have a fair amount of trouble wording heterosexual/romantic, because, most of the time, there is a binary assumed. Straight people often consider themselves attracted to the ‘opposite sex/gender’ and I wasn’t sure how to word it without implying a binary or mis-define heterosexuality as attraction to any one other gender.
So, this is throwing it out there - how can I/we better define heterosexual/romantic
Hey, just some suggestions for the Queertionary. Looking forward to the next edition. :)
Demigirl: someone who doesn’t fully identify with the term ‘female,’ yet feels closer to ‘female’ than any other gender identity.
Demiguy: someone who doesn’t fully identify with the term ‘male,’ yet feels closer to ‘male’ than any other gender identity.
Genderfluid: having a gender identity that changes over time. Some people move between two genders, while others move between more. They may or may not move back and forth. Some genderfluid people feel their gender changes on a daily basis, or even throughout the day, while others may feel a slower change over a longer period of time.
Genderfuck: playing with societal ideas and expectations of gender, usually by mixing very ‘feminine’ traits (high heels, makeup, skirts, etc.) with very ‘masculine’ traits (body hair, tie, defined muscles, etc.) Deliberately going against gender stereotypes, usually in a very obvious way.
[Submitted by justtakeitforgranted]