Hey there! What exactly is Romantic Attraction? http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triangular_theory_of_love I’m relying on this and I’d call myself a Cisgender Male Heteroromantic (just intimacy though!) Demisexual. And how does commitment factor into this? Maybe giving a visual representation of suffices and prefixes for gender, sex and three types (at least imo) of orientation would be cool. If I have time I’ll think of something but Haha don’t count on me xP Oh and I find myself attracted to just bout almost every person/animal/thing in a nonsexual nonintimate nonromantic way but in a “omg so cute” way. Lines are so blurry Haha but I appreciate the queertionary even though I’m predominantly acceptable by non-allys.
[Submitted by rbrayana123]
Hi! I’m really impressed with the Queertionary, but I did notice that the hetero- definitions talk about being attracted to “the other gender”, which seems to imply a gender binary by saying someone is attracted to the one other gender besides their own. Maybe use “another gender” like you have in other definitions. I’m not sure if people use hetero- terms in this way, however, but I thought I’d throw that out there.
[Submitted by absolutelydefinitely]
Thanks! I did have a fair amount of trouble wording heterosexual/romantic, because, most of the time, there is a binary assumed. Straight people often consider themselves attracted to the ‘opposite sex/gender’ and I wasn’t sure how to word it without implying a binary or mis-define heterosexuality as attraction to any one other gender.
So, this is throwing it out there - how can I/we better define heterosexual/romantic
Hey, just some suggestions for the Queertionary. Looking forward to the next edition. :)
Demigirl: someone who doesn’t fully identify with the term ‘female,’ yet feels closer to ‘female’ than any other gender identity.
Demiguy: someone who doesn’t fully identify with the term ‘male,’ yet feels closer to ‘male’ than any other gender identity.
Genderfluid: having a gender identity that changes over time. Some people move between two genders, while others move between more. They may or may not move back and forth. Some genderfluid people feel their gender changes on a daily basis, or even throughout the day, while others may feel a slower change over a longer period of time.
Genderfuck: playing with societal ideas and expectations of gender, usually by mixing very ‘feminine’ traits (high heels, makeup, skirts, etc.) with very ‘masculine’ traits (body hair, tie, defined muscles, etc.) Deliberately going against gender stereotypes, usually in a very obvious way.
[Submitted by justtakeitforgranted]
Call for Queertionary submissions:
As always, corrections, questions and revisions are welcome for the words I already have, and these are the words I would really like to add:
- Third Gender
It would be really great to get input from people who ID as one of these, and from other people who understand the identity. What’s the best way to explain these terms?
Suggestions for other words to use (with or without definitions are always welcome, too!
Being “pansexual,” is bullshit, in my opinion. You either like men or women or both. The most you can be is bisexual. The least you can be is asexual.
Sure, there are transgenders, transsexuals, and every other combination imaginable, but in the end every person identifies themselves one way or the other.
Actually, there are people who identify as genderqueer or non-binary. That is to say, there are people who identify as a gender other than “man” or “woman”. I identify as intergender, between ‘woman’ and ‘third gender’.
There are plenty of traditional gender roles other than “man” or “woman”, before you write this off as some silly new age fad.
- A lot of the Native American tribes/peoples have the concept of Two-Spirit, which is, to them, someone who is at the same time BOTH a man AND a woman - they have two spirits, one of each.
- Pakistan and India both have a group of people described a ‘hijra’ which seems to outsiders to be trans women (MTF) but they often describe themselves as “a second kind of woman”.
- Thailand has a traditional gender role which I don’t know the Thai for, but only the English derogative “ladyboy”. They (I believe) see themselves as other than ‘men’ or ‘women’.
- In Biblical times / Ancient Rome etc, eunuchs were seen as a seperate gender, with various documents (including older translations of the Bible) talks about “born Eunuchs” which suggests that it was something the individuals always identified as, rather than a physical state of being a castrated male person.
So, there you have it. There are other genders than ‘man’ and ‘woman’.
AND of course, there are other sex possibilities than cis-male, cis-female, trans-male and trans-female. Intersex is something born (you may know the concept under the now-unused word ‘hermaphrodite’) and I think one in 2000 people are born intersex in one way or another. (Some are born with ambiguous genitals, some seem male or female and don’t find out until they try to have children.) Neutrois is the physical version of agender - people don’t just transition to the ‘opposite’ sex, as some people feel they have no gender and also feel that they would be happier in a body with as few sex characteristics as possible.
Of course, you could just be a bigot and a binarist, and either ignore or reject/dispute this reply, but hopefully you’ll respond positively. I knew none of this information a couple of years ago, so it’s fine to say, “Oh, damn, I had no idea that any of these things existed!”
Reblogging this here to signal boost. Pansexuality is far from bullshit ;)
Also, it would be AWESOME if there were any Native Americans, Indians/Pakistanis or Thai…s? to either fix or confirm my definitions (E.G. what is the correct, non-slur for “ladyboy”? Is there one in English?) for Queertionary! As you can see by my failure to know what the word for people from Thailand is, I am not very good at international knowledge. I also suck at geography, if you must know.
With thanks to abracadabra-number-nine