“Pan” means all; “pansexual” means attraction to all genders. It’s not “I don’t see gender”. For a lot of people, it isn’t even “gender has no impact on how attracted I am to someone”. It’s fine if that’s what it means to someone, but it isn’t an accurate blanket statement.
Gender matters, and gender is important to a lot of people. We cannot ever, ever pretend that gender does not exist or that it is insignificant. It may be insignificant in your choice of partner, but that does not mean that you are blind to gender. Gender-blindness is only one step away from denying the existence of gender. Part of not being blind to gender is accepting that gender is very real, and that everything that comes along with gender -trans* struggles, privilege, dealing with sexism, preferred pronouns, etc.- are actually really important.”
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I used to post to this blog from the pansexual and pansexuality tags
But recently they’re filled with
- Bisexual posts (I don’t really care if bisexual people say bisexuality includes non-binary people, or that the word bisexual is the umbrella term, this is a pan pride blog so bi pride is not relevant)
- Photos of people’s faces (I wouldn’t mind if there weren’t so many of them!)
- Posts from blogs with lesbian in the title (this just confuses me, why do so many people who ID as pansexual, ID as lesbian? So many as to fill the damn tag up?)
So, lovely followers, send me pictures of things that are pan flag colours, posts about pansexuality as it relates to yourself, quotes (except the genderblind type ones, I don’t like that those represent pansexuality, like we overlook genders and other people are obsessed with them) etc, whatever you think would be good to post here.
Pan Problem at Practice
today at practice the boys were being dumb (what’s new, the boys on my team are always dumb) and when coach said “boys on offence” they retorted “how can you tell?”. She said “boys have penises, girls have vaginas” which resulted in some of the girls talking about the article about trans*people that was in the paper the other day which lead to laughter. I sat there not knowing what to say, especially because I am out to all of them as pansexual. I didn’t take it as a personal jab, but how do you handle that? I feel like I betrayed all my p.l.i.s and want to handle it better the next time it comes up.
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I don’t know, that’s quite a tough situation. If you aren’t comfortable or confident enough to stand up to a whole group of people (including the coach), that’s more than reasonable. I’m not sure I’d be able to do anything, either. Any suggestions, followers?
10 panphobic myths
I don’t really like the -phobic terminology, but there don’t seem to be any specific terms to replace biphobia and panphobia, except bi-hatred and pan-hatred, and I hear people find them too clunky.
But that asides, this is a great article / blog post / thing. Read it.
I kinda don’t like it when people refer to pansexuality as being “gender-blind”. It honestly reminds me a bit of people saying that they “don’t see race”. So…you’re just going to not acknowledge a potentially large part of someone’s identity? That’s really not cool.
I mean, I certainly see gender, it just doesn’t matter when I find someone attractive.
I suppose some people who identify as pan use the term “gender-blind”, but it still strikes me as odd and I really wish people wouldn’t lump all pansexuals into that category. Sexuality is a really diverse thing, even within particular labels.
Have to agree:
- The term colourblind basically ignores race, therefore ignoring racial identity and racial oppression. Colourblind is also a thing that exists, so the word is also appropriative of actual colourblindness.
- The term genderblind basically ignores gender, therefore ignoring gender identity and gender-based oppression, including cissexism, transmisogyny, binarism, and sexism/misogyny.
- You can tell they’re the same concept because one word is based on the other.
- People with gender identities that they feel aren’t covered by bisexual aren’t going to want pansexual people to ignore or be blind to their genders. They’re going to want pansexual people to acknowledge and respect their gender identities.